Displaced anger, sorrow, or fear can be disastrous to health, causing high blood pressure, heart attacks and more. Relationships can also be affected by conflict, tension, and disconnection. Learning to effectively deal with emotions, on the other hand, can put you in a position to make good decisions, proactively communicate your needs, and be more approachable and aware of what’s going on around you. It may also foster improved relationships and solve complex problems.
Here are some tips to help with emotional healing:
First, you must be yourself. This means asking for what you want, setting boundaries, having your own beliefs and opinions, standing up for your values, wearing the clothes you want to wear, eating the food you want to eat, saying the things you want to say, and in a hundred other ways being you and not someone who is false.
Part of our nature as men requires solitude, alone time, and a substantial, rugged individualism. However, this isn’t the whole story of our nature. We feel happier, warmer and better; we live longer and experience life as more meaningful if we love and let ourselves be loved.
Nothing causes more emotional distress than our thoughts. Thoughts that do not serve you well is the equivalent of serving yourself emotional distress. Only you can get a grip on your mind; if you won’t do that work, you will live in distress.
We are not completely in control of our being that we can prevent past, sore points from returning. They have a way of pestering us as anxious sweats, nightmares, sudden sadness, and waves of anger or defeat. Nevertheless, we can try to exorcise the past by not playing along with our human tendency to stay there. We must tell ourselves to move on and mean it. As best as you can, try to let go of the past.
Rampant anxiety ruins our balance, colours our mood, and makes all the already hard tasks of living harder. There are many anxiety management strategies you might want to try—breathing techniques, cognitive techniques, relaxation techniques - but what will make all the difference is if you can locate that “inner switch” that controls your anxious nature and decide that you prefer to live more calmly by flipping it to the off position.
by Arnold Best