Everyone has regrets. Some regrets are bigger than others. When you think about what you regret, you automatically think about what you could have done differently and become hard on yourself. Regret impacts everyone differently and there may not be a way to control it.
Regret signals you to live
differently right now.
I have heard many people say, “If I only knew then what I know now, my life would be completely different.” Truthfully, you are meant to be here in this moment and in the way that you are because that’s what life has planned for you. Fortunately, life gives us many opportunities to change our paths, even if we have screwed up before, but it is never too late to change. Now is your time to make things right and change your path.
Regret is about fear-based decisions and, for many of you, about ignorance and just not knowing then what you know now. Having known regret, you have to realise that when you decide to do differently, your regrets will fade. You know that when you choose differently, you tap into your inner strength and take control of your own life.
With new choices come some degree of uncertainty, and this may be the very thing you need to grow. We all need to become comfortable with what we do not know and take the chance anyway. It is our soul’s way of leading us along an enlightened path.
So, what is holding you back
from letting regret go?
Holding on to regret will only keep you down and reinforce the fear and irrational justification you initially had to avoid. Regret is a glimpse of the story you tell yourself. It is all about what you wish you had done, but did not do. Perhaps you were not an independent thinker and followed the guidance of others, forfeiting the opportunity to listen to your inner guidance.
Perhaps you were encouraged to be fearful, careful, and to avoid taking chances. Perhaps some of your life experiences led you to be cautious and pragmatic, rather than impulsive and exploratory. Regardless of the reason, you must understand that regret’s only place is in the past, and if you focus on the past, you will remain there. If you bring regret into the present, you allow it to impact your future. You must make a choice to leave it where it originated.
One of the best pieces of advice that I have been given is that a person must learn to decide rationally and make different choices. That means, you must choose to redefine who you are to make a different life for yourself. You need to step up and raise your standards.
Define your story based on your opinions, not based on how others define you. I promise you that what you may fear really is not as big as what you believe it to be. Sometimes having no more regrets mean that you tell those critical voices in your head to just be quiet.
Disprove your critical thinking and create the space for the new and true you. It takes honesty to acknowledge what you wish you had done or had been in your life, but that is the past. It takes bravery to commit to choose to live without regret and know that from this point forward this is your present and your future. So, what is your story telling about you now?
Are you going to jump in with both feet and silence those gremlins in your head, do something you have always wanted to do, or are you going to wash the stench of regret off your shoes and travel on a clean path?
It is your life story, and if there are chapters that you wish to re-write from your past, craft a new story line right now. You can do nothing about what has already happened, but you can do whatever you want in this moment and in the moments that are to come. Go ahead, start your new life chapter and give it a cool title; the kind that is intriguing, begs the reader to read more and the author to write more.
Start today and every day with a clean slate; with the intention of doing right by yourself and the courage to take chances.