Boys! They get on your last nerve yet manage to spark that girly grin across your face when the 'hot cutey' you've been crushing on passes by. They never know what's going with you. Sorry guys, time doesn't change this, you need to keep trying. We girls, like yourself, are complex individuals. On rare occasions, we too have our, 'what really going on here moments?' During this period, male and female teenagers are decoding themselves. So here we have two opposites going through a similar phase in life. There is hair, hips, breast, defined figures and a deepening voice. Talk about confusion. Just when you thought life couldn't get any more complicated you decide to start 'dealing'. No one knows who came up with that card reference for a relationship. I guess it makes sense, with so many options and fickle fever running through their veins you can't wait for the next hand. The class room is often flooded with intellectual tips regarding how to roll the skirt up after school, which guy needs to grow up or which certain bird you're contemplating tackling - again with the game names for relationship reference.
These are some of the tidbits of relationship information. It is in these everyday class room sessions that relationship etiquette 101 is taught to teenagers, by teenagers. Let us for a moment reflect on this combination - boys and books or vice versa. We are focusing on the former though. Does this sound like a good investment while trying to attain a valid education? Call me old fashioned but at this stage of life the two are like oil and water, they just don't mix. Hormones are raging violently. You know what happens if those aren't kept in check! A potential game plan set back could be well on the way and not for the boys. Yes, you lovely ladies with the fresh faces and plans to own the world - that killer physique can be demolished in an instant. You may be thinking, "waaaay, that is kind of going over board." But how exactly do you plan to work this thing out? During this period boys often try to acquire material for their daily doses of machismo boasting. That is, you. You have to have something to report back to the boys' club. While there may be a polite gentleman somewhere in the mix, this creature completely transforms when presented with possible prey. The unsuspecting teenage love crippled groupie (teenage girl) cannot see past the alluring dimples. But beware, behind that charming smile lies the fascinated, inexperienced mind of a teenage boy.
This is not to say that we girls are at all innocent in the relationship tango. We can sometimes set our own fire. But keeping on track with the discussion, what does one know about romance and the levels of maturity that it entails at this stage? It sure does look good to see that girl on the television dressing up at age 15 for her hot date and the guy who comes with flowers. That is only in 'la la land'! This is the real world and more than likely, your soon to be 'love' is just as unemployed as you are. In these hard times his idea of a date may very well be after school doubles on the Promenade with a trip down lovers lane (yes, it's still there). So often you see school children behaving in an inappropriate fashion with their alleged boyfriends. When in your school uniform you are to respect it and yourself. It is your duty to maintain a standard. After all you are a particular brand. No self respecting, young lady must have any one disrespecting her or her temple. We are all human and every one has a moment when the ear rinsing really does get to you, but be strong. In the beginning it may seem like an innocent, little, 'friend thing'. He wants to hold your bag so you can go to the cafeteria for him. You may even offer to kindly do his home work.
Next comes the serious stuff - the time for taking it to the next level. What? 'Mash your brakes, one time.' This is not a game this is real life. The choices you make now will forever affect you. Make no mistake, the phrase 'there is a time and place for everything' has serious connotations. You may not be able to fully understand what these whiny adults are saying but they really do have your best interest at heart. There is no law that says you can't have close male friends but not too close. It is already difficult to manage an adult relationship with someone who should have matured by now - imagine trying to achieve this with someone just starting the process of maturity. In the classroom you need all your mental faculties to be on par. Remember, you are not only competing locally but internationally as well. The best of the best gets the dream house or the six figure salary. When you have to take time out to answer a missed phone call or respond to a text from your special guy during class you will miss a whole chunk of information. If your special guy has your interest at heart he will want what is best for you and him - a solid education. After all this rambling you may be thinking "whatever, I can handle it, I am a boss like that"! The choice is really up to you. I am simply whispering words of wisdom. At this age we sometimes have a tendency to be compelled to do the same thing we are warned against. Be careful and guard your heart. In the end, if you really are a pro, seek to attain your education first and everything after.