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Tuesday, July 8, 2025

For the women who did not live to tell their stories

by

Ira Mathur
9 days ago
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This week’s Book­shelf sets fic­tion aside to en­gage with fact. These are the sto­ries of women who are no longer here to tell them. In the Caribbean like every­where else vi­o­lence be­gins at home, be­hind closed doors, in the places meant to of­fer shel­ter. It thrives in si­lence, in what is tol­er­at­ed.

It be­gins in lan­guage that re­duces bru­tal­i­ty to “fam­i­ly busi­ness”. It pre­tends to be about pro­tec­tion but is re­al­ly about con­trol It be­gins with neigh­bours who look away and sys­tems that promise pro­tec­tion but too of­ten de­liv­er noth­ing.

You know the sto­ry.

The body of 20-year-old Sa­van­na Dy­er was found on June 14, 2025, and dis­card­ed on the road­side in Carlsen Field, Ch­agua­nas, Trinidad. A se­cu­ri­ty guard—some­one trust­ed to pro­tect—has been charged with her mur­der. Her name joins a list that grows longer each year. In 2024, T&T record­ed 624 mur­ders, mak­ing this one of the most vi­o­lent coun­tries per capi­ta in the Amer­i­c­as (Trinidad and To­ba­go Po­lice Ser­vice An­nu­al Sta­tis­tics, 2024). Among the dead were at least 40 women, most killed by men they knew and 14 in­volved vic­tims with ex­ist­ing pro­tec­tion or­ders (TTPS An­nu­al Sta­tis­tics, 2024).

What re­mains of their lives are frag­ments in news re­ports: where they were last seen, how they died, and who is blamed. The rest—what they dreamed of, how they laughed, the pri­vate de­tails that made them who they were—has van­ished. These are women who did not live to tell their sto­ries. I write this on their be­half.

Across Latin Amer­i­ca and the Caribbean, at least 11 women are killed every day be­cause they are women, amount­ing to near­ly 4,000 lives lost in 2023 (UN Women Caribbean, 2023 Femi­cide Re­port).

Il­le­gal guns have made the vi­o­lence dead­lier. A quar­rel turns fa­tal in sec­onds. Sur­vivors are left with nowhere to run, and no one to call. There is no mys­tery to the cri­sis.

Over the past five years, re­ports of do­mes­tic vi­o­lence have soared, from 528 cas­es in 2019 to 2,646 in 2023 (Trinidad and To­ba­go Po­lice Ser­vice Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence Unit, 2023). More women have called for help. More have been failed. The laws ex­ist, but with­out the will or sys­tems to en­force them, they are lit­tle more than words on pa­per.

Across the world, the cri­sis of vi­o­lence against women mir­rors what we see in the Caribbean. The Unit­ed Na­tions es­ti­mates that, on av­er­age, 140 women are killed each day by a part­ner or fam­i­ly mem­ber world­wide, amount­ing to over 51,000 women in 2023 (UN­ODC and UN Women, Gen­der-re­lat­ed killings of women and girls (femi­cide/fem­i­ni­cide, 2023).

In Trinidad it has been doc­u­ment­ed in lit­er­a­ture and has long been fought for in law.

Few have done more in this bat­tle than Di­ana Ma­habir-Wy­att. When do­mes­tic vi­o­lence was dis­missed as “oth­er peo­ple’s busi­ness” Ma­habir-Wy­att forced the coun­try to see it as a crime. She was among those who helped shape the Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence Act, giv­ing le­gal lan­guage to what had been un­spo­ken (Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence Act of Trinidad and To­ba­go, 1991). Ma­habir-Wy­att saw that laws alone would not keep women safe. So she built shel­ters. She co-found­ed the Trinidad and To­ba­go Coali­tion Against Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence. She cre­at­ed Child­line, en­sur­ing that the small­est voic­es—the ones most eas­i­ly ig­nored—would be heard.

In Par­lia­ment, Ma­habir-Wy­att fought for amend­ments to strength­en pro­tec­tion. Out­side Par­lia­ment, she cre­at­ed the struc­tures that made pro­tec­tion pos­si­ble. Every woman who has found refuge in a shel­ter, every pro­tec­tion or­der that has been en­forced, bears traces of her work. Yet the vi­o­lence per­sists. She would have been the first to re­mind us that the work is not done.

What dri­ves do­mes­tic vi­o­lence? Pover­ty. Gen­der in­equal­i­ty. Weak le­gal sys­tems. Cul­tur­al norms that ex­cuse or hide abuse. Ig­no­rance. A need for pow­er from men who lack agency else­where.

The World Health Or­ga­ni­za­tion (WHO) re­ports that near­ly one in three women glob­al­ly has ex­pe­ri­enced phys­i­cal or sex­u­al vi­o­lence by an in­ti­mate part­ner, or sex­u­al vi­o­lence by a non-part­ner, at some point in their lives. Where laws are strongest and women’s rights pro­tect­ed in prac­tice—as in parts of Eu­rope—rates are low­est. Where laws ex­ist but re­main un­en­forced, or where women have no safe re­course, (South-East Asia, parts of sub-Sa­ha­ran Africa), the Caribbean and Latin Amer­i­ca) the killings con­tin­ue. (World Health Or­ga­ni­za­tion, Vi­o­lence Against Women Preva­lence Es­ti­mates, 2018).

Our writ­ers get it. In The Bread the Dev­il Knead, Lisa Allen-Agos­ti­ni of­fers a por­trait of a Port-of-Spain where women nav­i­gate dan­ger at every turn (Myr­i­ad Edi­tions, 2021). Her prose re­minds us of the vi­o­lence, of the un­easy, ever-present sense of threat that marks a woman’s dai­ly life.

The fear while leav­ing and re­turn­ing home, open­ing a gate, run­ning to the car in the dusk, in a lift, in a qui­et build­ing. Women are al­ways walk­ing around clutch­ing keys, and pep­per spray, watch­ing our backs.

Stud­ies from the Caribbean De­vel­op­ment Bank and UN Women show that up to one in three women in some is­lands re­port hav­ing ex­pe­ri­enced phys­i­cal or sex­u­al vi­o­lence from a part­ner (UN Women Caribbean & CDB, Gen­der Equal­i­ty Study 2020).

In Ja­maica, Bar­ba­dos, Guyana—wher­ev­er you look—the sto­ries are the same. A woman re­ports abuse; she is told to try hard­er to make it work. A pro­tec­tion or­der is grant­ed; it is not en­forced. A shel­ter is need­ed; it is full. The killings that fol­low are treat­ed as if no oth­er out­come could have been ex­pect­ed. Each sta­tis­tic masks what it means to live with fear in one’s own home.

This is not a cri­sis of ig­no­rance. We know what to do. The ques­tion is whether we will do it. Whether we will build the shel­ters, train the po­lice, strength­en the laws, and—most of all—act as if women’s lives mat­ter as much as we say they do. Whether we will teach our sons that vi­o­lence is not pow­er, that no one has the right to harm an­oth­er, that love is not own­er­ship.

The task of writ­ing is to refuse for­get­ting. Sa­van­na Dy­er. An­drea Bharatt. Ashan­ti Ri­ley. Names that should not have had to sur­vive in this way, as cau­tion­ary tales or head­lines. Names that should have out­lived the vig­ils. Their lives should have been full of the or­di­nary: love, work, dis­ap­point­ment, joy. In­stead, they are gone, and the sto­ries they might have told are left to oth­ers. Lit­er­a­ture be­comes the archive. It asks us not just to see, but to care, and to act.

Di­ana Ma­habir-Wy­att’s work has been the same. She did not al­low vi­o­lence to grow mon­strous be­hind closed doors. She de­mand­ed that the coun­try see what it tried not to see. Her lega­cy is the shel­ters that ex­ist, the laws that pro­tect, and the words we now have for what was once un­speak­able. But a lega­cy is on­ly a be­gin­ning. It is up to all of us to fin­ish what she be­gan.

The mur­ders of women in this re­gion are not ac­ci­dents. They are out­comes of choic­es—po­lit­i­cal, le­gal, and cul­tur­al. We can choose dif­fer­ent­ly. We can de­cide that these lives, these sto­ries, mat­ter enough to change how we live, gov­ern, and care. Or we can con­tin­ue as we are, al­low­ing 11 women killed dai­ly in the Caribbean to be­come or­di­nary, let­ting vig­ils stand in for ac­tion, let­ting grief re­place jus­tice.

For the women who did not live to tell their sto­ries, we owe more than mem­o­ry. We owe change.

Ira Math­ur is a Guardian Me­dia colum­nist and win­ner of the 2023 OCM Bo­cas Prize for Non-Fic­tion.

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